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by Kylee (veggiekylee)
at April 2nd, 2008 (12:20 am)

Obviously, I'm not Korean by my userpic haha. If it's not cool for me to be here... just tell me and I'll leave.

Anyways, I decided to join and poke around to see maybe some of the stuff my brothers and sister will go through once they are older.
I'm one of five kids in my family.  There's my older half brother, myself, my younger brothers Karson and Kullen, and my baby sister Kellis. I generally don't go annoucing "oh, I have adopted brothers and sisters from Korea!" just because I don't think of it that way but in this case I felt it was important so you know what I'm actually doing here. My younger brothers and sister are such an important part of my lives and I hardly ever think about them being "different" from myself unless it's brought up by other people.

So ummm, yeah just wanted to introduce myself and say hi. :)


Posted by: ABC (_biotch)
Posted at: April 2nd, 2008 03:45 am (UTC)

I'm glad you joined and went out and sought advice! That is great and shows you really care about your siblings.

Honestly, do exactly what you wrote! Treat them exactly how you think of them - your brother and sister! it is difficult when other people make remarks, though. If they do around your siblings, just remind them that none of that stuff matters at all anyway. After all, family is all about growing up together and learning and bonding.

I have an older sister that is the biological daughter and she never treated my brother or me differently than any other sister would. She's great. I know I did feel like my parents loved her more because she's their "real" kid, but now that I'm grown up, I realize that I was being irrational and I KNOW my parents love us all equally. It's a great feeling, and I wouldn't know if they didn't show and tell me they loved me all the time.

Maybe you should look into Holt camp for them to go to! It's a sleep away camp for adoptees, i hear great things about it. They have them in in four states, I can't remember all of them but I think Oregon and Pennsylvania are on there!

Posted by: Kylee (veggiekylee)
Posted at: April 9th, 2008 12:52 am (UTC)

Well, there a little young right now for camp plus my two brothers have autism so I'm not sure how they would be able to handle that but my mom is friends with a group of parents of adopted children from Korea that get together to have barbeques and such all the time

Posted by: Alexis (in_hyung)
Posted at: April 2nd, 2008 03:59 am (UTC)

Hi! I think that's really sweet that you're here. My sister is my parent's biological daughter, and like you, she doesn't treat me any differently than if I was biologically related to her! She's sometimes said to me: "I don't think of you as Korean or anything. I just think of you as Alexis: my sister!", and I love that. Of course, kids would say things when we were in school together, but we got through it, and I'm sure life wouldn't be much different for us if we were biologically related! She thinks of my husband as her brother and... everything's sweet!

But anyway, you're very welcome here. ^_^

Posted by: Kylee (veggiekylee)
Posted at: April 9th, 2008 12:56 am (UTC)

Thanks :)

Posted by: THE BOWLER HAT (thebowlerhat)
Posted at: April 2nd, 2008 10:51 am (UTC)
Coffee and cigarettes

I just wanted to chime in and say that I also give you props for joining the community and being involved. I have a half-sister who is my dad's biological daughter, and I often wonder if she ever thinks about the significance of my racial identity struggles over the past four years. We're pretty close, but we don't really talk about the big issues, so I think it's great that you're willing to do work on your own so that your siblings hopefully feel like they can come to you when they're older to talk about important things like racism, racial identity, and the family. I think it's important for you and your parents to be doing the work now, so you can be better prepared to handle situations when they arise like my parents were not. They're playing catch-up now, but I can tell you it's a lot easier for everyone involved to be pro-active rather than retro-active.

Posted by: Kylee (veggiekylee)
Posted at: April 9th, 2008 12:58 am (UTC)

My parents are definitely pretty well prepared for it and are always trying to prepare more.
It's amazing and incredibly sad that let alone there is racism in the world but that it can even be directed at a child. Agh.

Posted by: ~JungMee~ (sacredyuja)
Posted at: April 2nd, 2008 12:38 pm (UTC)

I think it's great you joined the comm. One of my biggest pet peeves is when parents or natural siblings refer to their siblings as "these are my adopted sisters/brothers". It not as if they go around introducing the natural siblings as "and these are the biological children of my parents" See how friggen silly that sounds! So it's great that you do not "think" of them differently.

Posted by: Kylee (veggiekylee)
Posted at: April 9th, 2008 12:56 am (UTC)

Yeah, seriously.
When people do find out that I have adopted brothers and sisters... they like want to announce it to the world for some reason. "This is Kylee.. she has adopted brothers and a sister from Korea"
It's like what difference does it make?
Agh, people are weird.

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